Much to our family's advantage (as we are living day to day, literally) Chris' pay now posts on Thursdays. It's nice because I can go ahead and figure out exactly what kind of mess we are looking at for the next week. It would be so nice if I could depend on even a small amount of child support from "the ex". Being that Chris is such a wonderful father and man, he would never imagine trying to short-change and pay less or try not to pay at all his own obligation to Justin and Ashton. It bothers me to even say that because they are obviously not the ones benefiting from the huge chunk of money that we cannot use for our needs. Must be nice to drive a fancy, off the lot SUV and go shopping for un-neccesities on a regular basis.
That being said my stomach is churning and my thoughts are close to raging mad. I am trying to keep a Christian spirit and keep things in perspective, but it is hard when someone who claims to be working with us in whatever way possible has the nerve to all but poor mouth! Which this should not surprise me considering it is something she often does. But her reply to my recent request to cash two payments at once next week, was insulting to my intelligence. Her response was she had already made adjustments to her household budget and since her current husband only gets paid once a month (...has she forgotten that I know he works 2 jobs to keep up with her expensive tastes) it wasn't really possible for her to make such an exception. Here I am wondering how my husband is going to eat lunch, what we will do for dinner and how we will put gas in our vehicles to get around next week!!
In trying to keep things in perspective, Chris has said (and she has admitted herself) that she doesn't manage money well. Join the club, it's my second weakest trait after housekeeping, and I am constantly trying to improve. It is very well possible that she has overspent on all her efforts to "keep up with the Crumplers" and truly does need to cash the check this week. I am so glad that I do not put on fronts to anyone or try to be something I am not. It would be so humiliating if the truth were exposed. We have been living above or means but nowhere to the extent that she does. I have taken steps to cut back and it has not been fun...but I know in the long run it will be worth it.
On a positive note, got the toys organized yesterday and have somewhat straightened and cleaned the kitchen today. I would really like to have our bedroom nicely cleaned for when Chris gets home, but that's looking like a pipe dream. Also heading to get my criminal background check and applying for a summer housekeeping position with a rental/realtor in Holden Beach. I have been told by many people that it is really decent money. It will be strenuous work and I am sure my back and nerves will pay for it. But if this works out it will be nice have something to contribute and maybe we can even take a small family vacation and have some money tucked away...although that never seems to last.
Well the timer has gone off and I promised James I would play pretend with him after I had some "mommy time." For now I'm not going to worry about the 1000 things left to do around this house. I am going to go play pretend then I am going to head out to take care of the business of getting this housekeeping position.
In regards to my battle against the roaches. Today so far, I have seen more dead than alive. I've seen about 3 babies (teeny tiny), 1 small, and 1 medium large.
I will comment as I think it is funny you are applying for a housekeeping job and you hate housework...or are you like people I know and hate to do things around your own house but volunteer to help others? LOL. Good luck with your new adventures. I will also add that there are probably more people than you know living like you on a week to week basis..as I am one of them.
ReplyDeleteLOL! That is exactly the issue. The monotony of everyday housework is so dreary. I do try to make the best of it, but it is a never ending cycle! I clean something to just have to turn around and do it again in less than 24 hours. It doesn't help that the older children, especially my little diva, view me as some sort of household servant.
ReplyDeleteI have been told that most of these vacation rentals are actually left in pretty decent condition and it's basically some sanitizing and freshening up. Besides isn't everything not fun a little easier to handle when you are getting paid!
We too have been and are still living paychec to paycheck. But it is slowly improving because I have been taking the class through my church called Financial Peace University. It tells you how to get out of debt and build wealth. It is not a get rich quick scheme either. You should check it out www.daveramsey.com I think I am trying to remember off the top of my head.
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